Courage is the quality or virtue that sustains all others. It takes courage to be loving when the other person is attacking you in some manner. It takes courage to be persistent when your efforts are not showing results initially. It takes courage to be the right kind of parent when your children are unappreciative of your sacrifice.
Courage is not something that arises in isolation as some intrinsic quality that some possess and others do not. According to leadership expert Simon Sinek's research, courage is generated by having others in our lives we believe support us and have our back.
Courage develops as a result of connection
This other can be comprised of friends, family, or a Higher Power. It leaves us with a sense we are not alone. This is so important because in many of the situations that require courage we are often physically alone. However, if we have sufficiently internalized these others, there is a belief we are not alone.
In my work as a psychotherapist and performance strategist, one of my primary goals is to undo aloneness and build a level of togetherness with my client that will begin to extend beyond the office. I experience with them both the highs and the lows of their journey. One of my favorite moments is when my client tells me something like, "I was just getting ready to back down, but I saw your face and what we talked about and I turned around and did it."
Whatever you may be facing today, visualize the people in your life you know believe in you and draw strength from them. In addition, strive to be that person for others. Take the time to be present with their pain or rejoice in their victories. Become the living proof with courage you can achieve anything.
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.