I don't believe in laziness. But John, what about all the lazy people I see around me. I know. You believe you have compelling evidence some people are just lazy. However, I have seen the most 'lazy' individuals come flying off the couch when there is something that excites them.
In my experience, people either haven't found what it is they ultimately value and are passionate about, or there is some fear of block standing in their way. In this post, I would like to address the first obstacle to becoming more disciplined.
There are many writers and speakers who talk about the importance of finding your WHY. I agree wholeheartedly with them. But one of the things few of them address is the complexity that can be involved in achieving this goal. I have discovered there are numerous impediments to gaining clarity of purpose.
Importance of identifying your WHY
Without identifying what truly fills and energizes you, the actions necessary to attain success can be laborious and tedious. Completing your daily tasks is the result of direct effort. It is like running on fumes. Practicing discipline feels like punishment. This is why it is important to take the initial step of recognizing what fills and energizes you.
Pursuing your desire, fills you with energy. It can feel effortless at times. Maintaining daily habits is easy. You can't wait to do them in many cases. For years, I did things I didn't want to do and was constantly fatigued, as well as depressed at times. Now that I am pursuing my passion and purpose, I am up at 5am everyday and constantly going. Staying committed to my daily disciplines is more fun than work.
Of course, there are challenging times, and the sun doesn't shine everyday. This last year has been the most difficult of my life. But it is also moving me closer to achieving my goals in many areas. If I was not aligned with my ultimate desire and calling, I would never have the energy and drive to make it through.
How to get clarity
If you are struggling today to find the necessary energy, really examine why you are doing what you do. Furthermore, does it excite or energize you. Would you do it for free. If you feel it does ignite your desire, why? What about this particular activity draws you to it? Get clarity of purpose. Notice how you feel emotionally and in your body when you think or talk about this topic or activity.
If you are pursuing what you love, being disciplined will come easily. If it doesn't, it is either not your true heart's desire, you are blocked by some fear, or you need some help with structure. I will speak more to these latter two causes in subsequent posts. In my experience, not being aligned with what you value and love is the bigger issue.
Lastly, don't allow anyone or anything to dictate to you what you should be doing. It is your life to live. No one but you can know what you find meaningful and exciting. Engaging in activities that bring out your unique gifts is a transcendent experience. You do it for the joy of it, not solely for an external reward. When you discover the greatness within you, and place yourself in a context to express it to others, you will find meaning, purpose, and true happiness. In addition, you will learn the secret to discipline is motivation.
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.