John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C

Never stop asking why! This one small word holds so much importance in our lives; it is very powerful and protective. I encourage my kids to always question everything but to do so in a respectful manner. However, this one word seems to create a great deal of controversy and hostility at times. Why are people so reactive to this one word? Pun intended!

What I have come to realize is, a great deal of what people assert, they do not truly believe deep down. Either they are still attempting to convince themselves or have not taken the time and effort to question things sufficiently. It is a form of intellectual laziness to just espouse what the majority agrees to. It also increases one's chance of acceptance by the group.

Dogma equals doubt

Take a fundamentalist of any type. How do they typically react if you question them regarding their faith. Their common response is anger and debate. This reaction is evidence of an individual's self-doubt. You and I both know two plus two equals four. If we walked into a room where people were saying it was five and were endeavoring to debate us, we wouldn't even engage them. We know it's four.

We have to make sense of reality to navigate it. When it comes to questions of ultimate reality, historically we have turned to philosophy and religion to provide an answer. It is amazing how some of the most intelligent individuals can believe some of the most irrational things when it comes to their faith.

When you question any aspect of their belief system, they usually become quite angry and attack you. What they are really experiencing is fear. When you point out the inconsistencies and gaps in logic, it floods them with anxiety. If they questioned these things, their whole house of cards on how they construct reality would come tumbling down. They choose a false sense of security rather than being committed to truth.

Eloquence doesn't equal right

We are all susceptible to being programmed. This is not being a conspiracy theorist but just having an understanding of how the brain works. One of the biggest traps we fall into is not questioning what someone is saying because they are renowned or established. I have heard many eloquent speakers wow the crowd while being dead wrong about what they are saying. No one questions some of the groundless things they are asserting due to their reputation.

Innovation requires questioning the status quo. People fall into patterns of comfort and familiarity. Change is disruptive and difficult. It is easier to just keep doing the same ol' things. However, you end up getting left behind by those who create new and better ways of doing things.

In all areas of your life, never stop questioning. Furthermore, look for ways you can improve and evolve. This takes courage. It will require facing your own fears, and you will encounter resistance from others. But the payoff is worth it: you will avoid falling into the matrix; and you will experience new levels of truth and creativity. Be committed to growth and development. Keep learning. Question everything, and hold onto the good.


John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.

John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance. 

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