Stop! If you are anything like me, it is a challenge to achieve this goal. It is a constant struggle to find a balance between achieving my purpose and calling while maintaining a sense of peace. Furthermore, we are bombarded daily with false messages about what will bring us peace and happiness. The reality is these things actually rob us of both of those qualities.
We are told the right relationship, a nice car or home, attaining financial wealth, and a certain level of status and recognition will lead us to peace and fulfillment. We then pursue these things goals single-mindedly hoping they will lead us to the 'pot of gold' at the end of the rainbow. However, what typically occurs is they rob us of our peace all along the way. We fall prey to the 'one day' mentality.
The first step is to force yourself to stop
To escape this trap requires us to stop striving and go inward. This feels so counterintuitive. We have been hardwired to believe when we acquire the right things in the external world it will give us what we are seeking for in our internal one. But this is never the case. Moreover, many have suppressed their emotional reality for so long, they are fearful of opening the door to their inner world.
The first step to escaping from this trap is to force yourself to stop. This may be tremendously uncomfortable at first. The reality is peace is already inside of you. But you are most likely to notice anxiety first when you go inward. Don't shrink back. Have the courage to continue. It will subside. Next, there may be emotions, memories, or thoughts that have been sitting there beneath the surface for some time. Allow them. They will move through like waves on the ocean. As you remain focused on just staying with this process, it will eventually lead you to a sense of peace and joy.
Start small and stay consistent
Each person's experience with this journey will be different in terms of length depending on how much they have suppressed and how long they have been running on adrenaline or dissociated. If there is unprocessed trauma, seek out support from a qualified individual like myself. In addition, this will not be a one time event for most people but a consistent, daily practice that will lead to obtaining the goal of discovering more peace in your life.
Start small. If you can regularly do five minutes a day of this practice, that is great. Then build from there. You will then discover for yourself that peace comes through doing, not having. Now go in peace:)
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.