The person I most want to be able to trust is myself. I rely on me more than any person in my life. This does not mean I don't reach for others or allow them into my life. However, the ultimate responsibility for my life is mine. Achieving this goal requires following through on commitments I have made internally.
One thing I can say with assurance is the majority of people are not living the life they are capable of. A primary cause of this is not taking responsibility for their own lives. They have given away their power in a variety of ways. Moreover, their life is filled with a list of things they cannot do as a result of circumstances and control others have over their lives.
Your ultimate freedom is to choose your response
The first step to earning your own trust is to take responsibility for your life. Stop believing you are a victim of circumstances and allowing others to have dominance over you. Your ultimate freedom as a human being is to choose your response. You have the power to do this; exercise it! I am more than compassionate to the suffering of others, but at some point we have to get up and get moving.
The next objective is to gain clarity on what it is you truly want for your life and why that is so important. It needs to be compelling enough to energize you for the obstacles you will need to overcome to achieve your goals. Discover where your passion and aptitude intersect and align that with purpose. Having a powerful WHY will aid you in conquering the HOW's.
Avoid self-attack and exercise self-compassion
Finally, develop the necessary steps to obtain your goal. Break this down into smaller objectives that are attainable. This will not only help you achieve your goal but assist you in earning self-respect and trust along the way. It is a very meaningful and fulfilling feeling to be able to look yourself in the mirror and have confidence in your ability to rely on yourself.
In addition, as you encounter places it is more difficult to follow through, avoid self-attack and exercise self-compassion. We all have hurdles and barriers that impede us, which are driven by emotional blocks. Get help identifying and breaking through them. Start today with some aspect of your life you can retake ownership of and develop the necessary trust in yourself to succeed. Just as with gaining the trust of another, earning trust in yourself takes time. Be patient and consistent, and you will get there.
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.