In, Man's Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl discusses how every moment is pregnant with meaning if we choose to see it. However, achieving this goal can seem like a daunting task at times. I believe the core of what makes it difficult to be present is fear.
We spend so much of our time living in some degree of survival mode. This keeps us out in the future to some extent. Will we be safe? Will we get our most important needs met? Will we maintain bonds with others. This leaves little space of acquiring our higher needs for love, transcendence, and actualizing our full potential.
Why It's Challenging for Us to slow down
Much of your existence is locked into replicating the past on a day-to-day basis. Both internal and external cues trigger emotions, which are a record of our history. This part of the brain does not know the difference between the past and the present or internal and external reality.
It activates emotional responses when our survival needs were threatened and repeatedly tells us this is happening. This results in our inability to slow down, be present, and find the meaning in the moment. Underneath the pursuit of wealth and status are unmet survival needs. This is why it is so challenging to slow down. The more primitive parts of our brain warn us our existence is at stake.
How to overcome core fears
To break out of this pattern requires us to stop chasing our intermediate fears, such as being broke or publicly ridiculed, and identify our deepest core fears, which I believe reduce down to only three:
- Trapped and helpless
- Alone and isolated
- Not good enough.
We continue to remain in a hyper vigilant state because we have unprocessed emotional memories, frozen in time, of incidents where we experienced one or all three of these states.
Once you have pinpointed your core fear, focus on a situation from the past or the present until you can feel a corresponding body sensation. Now just notice the feeling and let your mind go as best as you can. Then track and notice your present experience, which is comprised of emotions, body sensations, spontaneous thoughts, images, memories, and subjective experiences. Let go of conscious control of your mind and just observe.
How to Access your natural ability to heal
Your brain is hardwired to process these emotional memories and release them. What gets in the way from this happening is our conscious mind. Processing occurs best when we are dreaming. The more you can let go, the more you will move into different brainwave states that will allow you to release these emotional memories on a deeper level.
Sometimes this process goes smoothly. Other times, there are blocks that occur. If this is the case, message me and I will give you further instructions. Life can become a whole new experience when you are more present and grateful. Start to put this into practice and let me know how it goes. We are only fully alive when we are present. Wake up today and discover all the meaningful things that surround you.
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.