"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all." - Helen Keller
One of the things that robs the majority of people from experiencing a life filled with excitement and adventure is fear. I have said before the biggest regret in my life is having spent so much of it afraid. At one point, I became so frustrated with fear robbing me of what my life could be I made a decision to conquer it. The payoff for this has been well worth the effort.
However, recently I was struggling with my old nemesis due to a situation that was out of my control and uncertain. I could feel my old pattern of chronic worry and avoidance wanting to emerge. This culminated in a sleepless night after receiving some discouraging news. I had to make a decision at that point - do I let the fear overcome me or do I find a way to act.
The remedy to shutdown is massive action
As human beings, we have three primary defenses outside of reaching for connection and support: fight, flight, and freeze. Each of these defenses are adaptive for a particular situation. However, far too often we become locked in habitual patterns of fleeing or dissociating when we need to face a situation.
The remedy to breaking free from escape and shutdown is to take massive action. I am not referring to being reckless but strategic. One of the benefits of doing so is it unlocks us from our freeze and flight states. Even if you don't achieve your desired goal, it will activate your fight defense and get you moving.
Unlock the energy within to break free from helplessness
If you are currently immobilized by fear or numbing yourself with compulsive behaviors, identify an area you can take massive action that will force you to become fully engaged. It needs to be bold in its scope. Otherwise, it will not unlock the necessary energy to break you out of helplessness and into a more empowered state.
If you examine the lives of highly successful individuals, there are multiple moments they encounter that would freeze the average person in their tracks. Instead, these accomplished men and women found a way to engage in a bold act, which made all the difference. If they had not done so, they would have eventually been overtaken by their fear.
Pinpoint an area of intervention, take bold, decisive action, evaluate the results, and be flexible with your response. Doing so will catapult you out of fear and towards achieving a life that is truly a daring adventure.
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.