In my experience, the majority of people do not consistently take decisive action. They repetitively define the problem or attempt to achieve perfection prior to stepping out into the arena. Several years ago, a woman named Mel Robbins came out with a book called, The Five Second Rule. The book was based on some neuroscience principles of how the brain starts to impede your ability to act when you delay.
My life has been dedicated to helping people heal and achieve their greatest dreams. In doing so, I have had to become an expert in helping people overcome their emotional blocks. Maybe, for you it is procrastination, or fear of failure, or worry about being criticized publicly. Whatever the case, you are in good company. I can tell you everyone has these issues from the most talented to the least.
Courage is an outside job
Success requires identifying these obstacles and conquering them. Moreover, everyone is capable of doing so. Throughout our history, there are places we were emotionally stung that resulted in us becoming a bit 'gun shy'. Think of a surfer who experienced a severe wipeout. It is scary paddling back out for the first time. Doing so alone even more so.
In the picture below, there are two surfers. This makes all the difference. The formula is always the same: facing our greatest fears and hurdles with support. Having that one person in our corner who believes in us no matter what happens is what enables us to have the courage to act. Courage is an outside job. It comes from believing we matter to someone, and they have our back, whether it is a friend, family member, or God.
The two main blocks are always fear and shame
Developing the capacity to take decisive action also requires overcoming perfectionism. This stopped me in my tracks for years. All my perfectionism was just a compensation for the feelings of inferiority I felt deep down. Defeating shame is what will allow you to overcome perfectionism.
In your journey to success, the two main foes will always be fear and shame. Reach for support. Vanquish these foes. Get out of your head, and just act on it. Successful individuals make constant mistakes. The difference is they are fine with it. It just gives them feedback on how effective their action was. They then pivot and make adjustments. Those who are unsuccessful stand on the shore out of fear of getting hurt by the waves and concerns about how the others on the beach will judge them. Meanwhile, the ones who paddled out are having the time of their lives and living at a higher level.
Even if you are not ready to take action, act on the things I am encouraging you to do to today. This will lead to your eventual ability to take the necessary action to succeed. As always, Get Going! 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C.
John has helped thousands of clients overcome the hidden internal blocks which had kept them from achieving their maximum potential. Furthermore, he has assisted them in gaining clarity of their true life purpose, identifying their gifts and talents, and developing lives of greater meaning and significance.